Imago Relationships Centre

What is “Hot Monogamy”?

It is about creating (or re-creating) the PASSION that makes relationships thrive. It is intended to provide you with the information & tools to transform a committed relationship into an intense and passionate experience that WILL LAST.

The course was devised by Pat Love who is an Imago Therapist, and her daughter, Kathleen McFadden.

Because the subject is sensitive for most people, we do everything possible to eliminate embarrassment and fear. Even though there are other couples participating, each person does the exercises with his/her own partner. A lot of IMAGO principles are used — there is no room for shame, blame or criticism. No-one is required to speak in front of the group, though any feedback is appreciated and is usually helpful to everyone present. You are identified by only your given name.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT “HOT MONOGAMY”
Is this course only for heterosexual couples?
Definitely NOT – all couples of any sexual orientation are welcome if they are in a committed sexual relationship.
What can I expect from the course?
There will be a number of couples – not too many so as to enable us to give full attention to all participants. We give information, followed by exercises to be done with your partner, followed by feedback from whoever wishes to give it. The course covers 9 basic areas – Desire; Technique; Variety; Romance; Body Image; Intimacy; Passion; Sensuality; Communication.
Is it therapy?
No, it is not therapy. It is educational and experiential.
Assessment	–Why not try this exercise?
Sexual Style Survey
The Sexual Style Survey is neither a test, nor an assessment; it is simply a “you are here” map depicting your sexual experience within the past few months. The survey is designed to help you understand yourself and your partner better. Print out 2 copies of the following statements and each of you should then separately & independently of each other rank them from 0 – 5 to indicate how often or how well each statement applies to you. Answer the questions in terms of the past few months.

Does Not Apply	Seldom Applies	Sometimes Applies	Normally Applies	Consistently Applies	Always Applies
0	1	2	3	4	5

1.	I help to create a romantic setting for our lovemaking.
2.	I am physically affectionate throughout the day.
3.	I bring an element of romance to our lovemaking.
4.	I use romantic gestures (e.g., gifts, surprises) to show my love for my partner.
5.	I put loving effort into the celebration of our anniversary and other significant occasions in our relationship.
6.	I daydream or fantasise about romantic moments and events we share.
7.	I talk to my partner in a romantic way.
Total up your scores and then share your list with your partner and see where your scores differ. It’s ok if they ARE different – that’s normal. It illustrates one area of your relationship [in this case, Romance]. If there’s a major difference between your scores, it indicates that this is a part of your relationship that you need to talk about and work on.
There are several such assessments/exercises that form part of our sessions and groups. For more information contact us.
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